What’s a moment when you realized you were officially an adult?

I do not like the term adulting. There are times I do not feel like much of an adult, as I feel like the transition to being an adult happens without much pomp and circumstance.

If one must describe a defining moment, it would be the day I stood in the front of my parent’s house with a set of keys and a U Haul truck. I was headed to Virginia. I don’t think I spent much time below the Mason Dixon line.

I was living in Philadelphia at the time. I don’t know why this was not my coronation into adulthood. Probably because I did most things on a cash basis. That’s a sad notion in itself. In one’s own mind we need to establish credit to consider our selves an adult.

It felt odd driving that U Haul truck. in retrospect, it was the great unknown. We didn’t have Google Maps to guide us there and cell phones to update family on your progress. I am not the best driver in the world. I tapped the bumper of another car in a pathing lot somewhere. I left a note but never heard from the person.

It was intimidating driving over the Potomac River and venturing into Virginia. I remember at the pool of the hotel the following day. It was early march and warm enough to swim. I thought myself part of the world, doing what ever I deemed fit.

I found a place to live on my own. I no longer had to call my Mom as how to cook one of her dishes. I could go to the grocery store and buy my groceries and cook what ever I was hungry for. I no longer had room mates. I believe the first meal I cooked was Halibut.

It snowed a few days later.

The entire concept of Destination Unkown has always intrigued me, Here is a story I wrote a while back, that I reworked and was recently accepted for publication this week.

2 responses to “U-Haul and Oates”

  1. Not all who wander are lost Avatar
    Not all who wander are lost

    That sounds like a true rite of passage

  2. vermavkv Avatar

    What a wonderful and honest reflection on that quiet, almost accidental transition into adulthood. I love that you challenge the idea of “adulting” because, as you so beautifully show, there is rarely a grand ceremony announcing that we have finally become adults. Sometimes it is simply a set of keys, a U-Haul truck, a new destination, and the realization that we are suddenly responsible for our own lives

I would love to hear you opinion as well

I’m Mark

His friends observe Mark seems wired a little differently. Perhaps it’s more likely that noticing little things often missed by others is a relic of a quieter, simpler time. He has a way with words, which he refuses to let be hindered by sub-par typing skills. People have great stories to tell if you sit and listen.

A belief dear to Mark is that there is certain beauty in the world. You simply have to look for it.

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